Girl Baby or Boy Baby

One month ago, I went to Từ Dũ hospital to visit a friend who just gave birth to a girl baby. I had a chance to witness real happiness of marriage, especially the way that the husband took care of his wife and the baby touched my heart. At that time, he was a great father in my eyes. It also made me change the point of view that men always like boy babies.

I remember 5 years ago, when I have not gone to HCMC to study at the university yet, I witnessed many unhappy families because they had no boy baby. In my hometown, if your family has no boy, they will have a discriminating attitude and look down your family. Therefore, you will have to face with many difficulties and pressure from society. You will feel alone and nobody welcomes you. Therefore, in family, the husband always wanted his wife to give birth at least a boy baby. If his wife could not give birth to a boy baby, he was willing to beat and do some bad things with her. With many people, a boy baby was more precious than 10 girl babies.

Repeatedly, I wondered whether it was from culture or prejudices of a modern society. If it was from culture as some people said, we can blame that our ancestors left a bad culture for our young generation, right? No, I am sure that our ancestors did not leave us a negative thought like that. We can find good traditional values of our ancestors’ thought in fairy tales, folk songs, proverbs, or idioms which we have heard and studied when we were a little child up to now. Moreover, we are always taught how to behave well with others, how to respect others in traditional culture of Vietnamese people. So, we cannot blame on our culture.

Therefore, I think the main reason is from prejudices of a society. We have not been aware of role and value of human beings in the world. We prefer boy babies than girl babies. That means we think highly of the role of men, but we forget that a girl baby or woman are still human beings and they also have value and role as boy baby or men. They are worthy to be respected and loved. We often look down and disdain them, but let us imagine if one day all women in this world disappear or women only give birth to boy babies, what will happen with us? I believe we can see horrible consequences which we have to face.

After visiting my friend and feeling the love that her husband gave to his baby girl, I believe that society is more developed and perception of the people is more improved, we will be more aware of value and position of each person to respect and love as who they are. In my opinion, a boy baby or a girl baby is not important, but the real importance is the way how we love, behave and teach them to be a good person in this society.